Monday, May 31, 2010

Memorial Day 2010: An Elegy for a Soldier Dying Young

By Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
MemorialDay, May 31, 2010

Ninety-two years ago my great uncle, John Ammon (photo right), had his young life taken from him in a 1918 World War I battle (St. Georges, France), less than 30 days before the armistice that ended the carnage. The total number of Americans killed and wounded numbered about 330,000. (The total number of deaths and injuries for all countries involved in that war is close to 30 million.)


In a short biography about Uncle John we wrote:

"How are people remembered after they die? Unless blessed or cursed with fame or infamy, the departed are usually recalled in family photos, memories and in the recollections of friends for a while until the last 'I knew him’ is buried.

"Silence and forgetting move in like the afternoon fog. Who of us recalls our grandparents or great grandparents even if they lived into their late eighties? And what about the many countless folks who died without offspring or without any important artifact of their fourscore years of walking the earth?

"And what about those who die young and virtually unnamed in the nightmare of warfare?

"The brother of my grandfather Francis, Uncle John Ammon (born June 11, 1888; photo above) was neither a rebel nor a rich man, and was not well known. He was killed in France as the was ending. He was 30, not married and not a father. Yet he didn’t die wholly anonymous. Instead of children or fortune he left a modest paper trail of his life in the form of photographs he took before the war as well as postcards and letters he wrote to his brother Francis during his army time up to within a month of his death…"

John wanted to join the forces and serve his country. It seemed to him and thousands of others the right thing to do. He was upbeat and reliable, a man of honesty and compassion. But such things don't count on the battlefield where human beings are reduced to stick figures with a weapon, a mere silhouette to be eliminated.
(photo: American 23rd Infantry Regiment in action at Belleau Wood, France, June 3, 1918
)

But back home that same stick silhouette is a fully-fleshed person with deep meaning and attachment to family and friends. Add to that bond the mysterious inner force that urges that young person, motivated by a protective duty, to join a dangerous cause in which death is a real possibility. Overzealous as many young men and women were to 'fight the krauts', in his private moments I feel John clearly knew he was on a risky path far away from home and facing hard living in tents and ditches. But he went forward and obeyed orders because it was right for his country and his family.

His sacrifice rings in my mind to this day. He went to war for a bit of adventure, perhaps, but more out of a sense of protecting his family from harm. He grew up in an orphanage and knew well the loss of protection, being in a world with no security other than his own making. There
was a higher cause to his sense of life, a cause that spoke to him out of his own damaged childhood that life must be guarded and deliberately forged by effort and determination; a good life was not something you were 'entitled' to, that got handed to you at no expense. You worked and made a life, for yourself and your loved ones. And if that work called for sacrifice then you made it and held on as long as you could.

And that's what he did until his end. His gift to me, three generations later, is the freedom I have today to choose my life and express who I am as a citizen, friend, lover, brother, son. All the things he gave up.

I remember him with bowed humility and deep gratitude on Memorial Day 2010.

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Some Portholes of Light in the Sewers of Homophobia

By Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
May 30, 2010

Some portholes of light in the sewers of homophobia around the world this past week: Zimbabwe released from jail, on bail, two GALZ (Gays and Lesbian of Zimbabwe) staff members (
Ellen Chadehama and Ignatius Mhambi) after being arrested on trumped up charges of ‘undermining the authority of the President’. Then in Malawi the infamous ‘gay couple’ Stephen and Tiwonge, held in prison since December ‘09 for getting engaged, then convicted and sentenced to 14 years hard labor for ‘un-African behavior’ were pardoned by the President of Malawi, Bingu wa Mutharika, with UN Secretary Ban Ki-moon by his side urging the pardon.

And yesterday the Moscow gay Pride events happened without arrests or violence. They were stealth happenings and the police couldn’t find the locations quickly enough before the activist dispersed. (photo right. Moscow leader Nikolai Alekseev)

We might call these good news events but they are not bright lights, more like candles in the darkness. I am certainly glad for the immediate relief from agony and assault.

But given the contexts of these moments, there will be consequences to follow. The Zimbabwe ‘2’ will be taken to court and insulted and libeled for their humanitarian work by a very corrupt legal system. The Malawi couple will never be able to return to ‘normal life’, impoverished as it was without public scrutiny and having to hide in a safe house and possible asylum in South Africa.

In Moscow the guerrilla tactics of gay Pride will continue to have only limited effect on an indifferent population whose authority figures hate gays as much now as they did in Soviet days.

This is not to diminish at all the bravery and passion of those LGBT activists on the front lines of this most horrific culture war, third behind the culture wars of religion and tribe. (It’s daunting to consider how many ways people have of tearing at each other.)

The efforts of LGBT individuals and organizations to push beyond the prejudice of discrimination, stigma and rejection—the war—is not being lost. Lives are, but the cause is just and world being awakened by these heroic ‘act up’ event at different paces in different places to the reality that homosexuality exists, that it is not a disease and that gay people deserve some consideration of understanding if not equality.

Stephen and Tiwonge in Malawi became accidental poster boys in their own country for declaring their love for each other and for being homosexuals in a society that tries to deny there are such people. And they also became poster boys for the much wider international cause of human rights and the injustice meted out to minorities in many countries.

Stephen and Tiwonge (photo left) could not have imagined the worldwide reverberations of their local engagement ceremony in their little rural village in remote Malawi. But now they do and so does virtually every one else in Malawi. Suddenly, shockingly, the country knows what homosexuality is and that it exists there and that the assumed norms of homophobia and denial are not acceptable to modern international standards. Life has moved on beyond post-colonial Africa to become more enlightened and freer.

Stephen and Tiwonge could not have imagined that the United Nations Secretary would personally intervene on their behalf to help pry open the mind of the Malawian President, just a little, enough to pardon them while still holding on to his unexamined and distorted belief that homosexuality is immoral and un-African. But that small opening is enough for the moment. The human mind is not an easy thing to reshape when faced with its own ignorance and self-righteousness. So we take small steps.

And that is what is happening around the world to awaken closed minds to the reality of human nature’s many truths and sexual diversities. Whether intentionally provoking attention and anger in Russia or accidentally causing a furor in Malawi or quietly advocating safe-sex in Zimbabwe the greater cause is just. Human nature desires peace and justice in the privacy of home, in their neighborhood, in their country as much as they desire comfort and warmth and acceptance. But politics, religion, mythic traditions have swayed people away from such inherent peaceful ways of being with fear, suspicion and hatred of things and people who are different in their own politics, religion, traditions—or sexuality.

Countless governmental and non-governmental organizations foundations exist around the world to bring peace, water, food or medical cures to the needy all in the name of kindness and humane justice. Gay rights activists—deliberate or accidental—are doing no less to help illumine the world.

I am humbled and grateful to the GALZ staffers for their diligent health efforts, to Stephen and Tiwonge for their agony and to the Russians for their courage.

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Why this absurd brouhaha about gays in the military?

By Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
May 29, 2010

Why this absurd brouhaha about gays in the military? We are already there and serving well. Who are these worried troops and brass who are blowing this issue way bigger than it is?
There are thousands of gays and lesbians already IN the service. When the ‘don’t tell’ ban is shut down, what do they expect us to do, have a gay Pride parade at West Point or down the streets of Kandahar. (photo right: openly gay UK soldier)

Be realistic. Just because the ban is lifted, homophobia will still be alive an well in America and in the military. Homophobia can get a gay person bashed or killed—with or without the ban. We are not stupid or eager for strangers to know about our private lives. We will not come flying out with rainbow colors to announce our person sexual preferences.

We will continue to conduct ourselves the same as we already do—discretely, privately but without the threat of being unfairly discharged. We will experience it as no more and no less than a RELIEF. That’s it. Unseen and silently, gays will serve wholly legally in all the armed services.

This overflow of opinionating and the swollen demand for investigations into the effect of lifting DADT verge on the absurd and lack a close intimate understanding of what it’s like to be gay and lesbian or bi or trans. We only want equality of rights and equality of being protected from the dangers of irrational military homophobia, not a parade.

The New York Times today said, "Under an amendment moving through Congress, once that report is finished, the White House and senior Pentagon leadership must certify that repealing the ban will not be disruptive to the military. Once that certification is made, final repeal will occur within 60 days. "

Disruptive? How much analysis and how much empirical evidence does it take to crack the dense homophobic mindset that gays in the military pose some kind of risk? It makes NO difference. The evidence is already in. Take a look: Israel, Australia, Austria, Belgium, Brazil, Canada, Colombia, Czech Republic, Holland, Denmark, Finland, Germany, France, Ireland, Italy, New Zealand, Norway, Peru, Philippines, Argentina, Slovenia, South Africa, Spain, England--even highly homophobic Russia, Estonia and Lithuania--all allow gays to serve without hiding. The actual evidence from all these countries is that gays in the military is a no-brainer issue.

Just because there is a difference in sexual orientation does not make people so different that they are somehow unqualified for worldly responsibilities or military service. We already raise families, perform surgery, deliver the mail, teach children in schools and universities, do research for NASA and are elected to public office and serve in the military. Do we have to re-invent the wheel to prove the point?

What’s the big deal if we are in uniform? We will continue to do it with all the respect and duty as we do now.

Stop the madness. Drop the ban. It makes no difference to the quality of our military might. (photo right, Israeli female soldiers--3 are lesbians?)

But it will make a difference for those who choose to stay stuck in 20th century homophobia that as irrational as the tooth fairy or Santa Claus—in the belief that something very unreal is very real. LGBT people are no different as human beings than anyone else. We can climb, shoot, run, follow orders and serve as top brass as well as anyone.

What will have to change, or be cured, is the mental disease of social homophobia that’s historically based on religious mythology and institutional distortions of portions of the Bible that were written by ancient men—humans as vain and ego-filled as we are today. Jesus said NOTHNG about sexuality. He did say to love one another as he loved us. That’s all. The rest is interpretation and mythology and church politics.

Once we expose this caustic mental disease of homophobia that kills thousands of people a year—from teens to elders—we will be a better society for it. Allowing ancient religious-based prejudice to govern modern-day conduct of military matters is like using medieval catapults to confront North Korea’s nuclear saber-rattling.

Social homophobia is a totally curable disease and the sooner the better. On this the military can lead the assault. JFDI.

Friday, May 28, 2010

Support Moscow Pride This Weekend--Danger Threatens

Last minute message from Moscow's brave activists

Posted by Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
May 28, 2010

-Moscow court upholds Gay Pride ban
-EU, UK and US fail to condemn ban
-Russian gays will defy courts and mayor
-Activists gather in secret Moscow location

"In a shameless display of feeble deference to the Mayor of Moscow, a court in the Russian capital today upheld Mayor Luzhkov's ban of the fifth attempted Moscow Gay Pride parade. The judge acted in defiance of the Russian constitution, which guarantees freedom of expression and the right to protest.

"This is a sad day for Russian democracy. It is the latest of many suppressions of civil liberties that happen in supposedly democratic Russia. Many other protests are also denied and repressed, not just gay ones. Autocracy rules under President Medvedev," said human rights campaigner Peter Tatchell, who is in Moscow for the fourth time to support Russian gay rights activists.

"The EU and western embassies are hypocrites. They support Gay Pride events in Poland and Latvia, but not in Russia. The UK and US governments have not protested to the Russian authorities. Their ambassadors to Russia have offered no support to the Moscow Pride organizers. They have ignored suggestions that they host Gay Pride events in their embassy grounds and that they fly the gay rainbow flag on Moscow Pride day, 29 May.

"On the eve of the banned march, activists are arriving in Moscow from all parts of Russia, to join the Saturday parade. We are being billeted in secret locations across the city. To outwit the FSB security services, who have previously tried to locate Gay Pride activists by tracing their mobile phones, we have surrendered our mobiles and been issued with brand new Russian sim cards.

"I am holed up with a group of activists in an apartment in Moscow. We've been asked to remove all badges and ribbons that might identify us as gay or as activists. All the beds and sofas, and much of the floor space, is taken up with activists form far and wide. Everyone is messing in to organize food and household chores.

"We are ready and determined to make a stand for gay rights and the right to protests. The courage and resolve of the Russian LGBT activists is really inspiring. We'll take whatever the authorities, and neoNazis, throw at us. We are hoping for no arrests and no assaults, but we are ready for the worst," said Mr Tatchell.

Further information Peter Tatchell in Moscow 7 903 539 5179

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Inspired Davids Stand Against Stupefied Goliaths--Gay Activism in the 21st Century


It takes great courage to confront the brick wall of systemic homophobia in Morocco.

By Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
May 28, 2010


Read this News Report (http://www.magharebia.com/cocoon/awi/xhtml1/en_GB/features/awi/features/2010/05/27/feature-03) or read the Previous Blog, May 27,
on this site (http://globalgayz.blogspot.com/2010/05/courageous-gay-magazine-mithly-debuts.html) about a gay magazine published for Moroccan gay people and distributed in major cities in Morocco. A daring first.

Even if the publishers and activists are in Madrid, understandably, this action takes great courage to confront the brick wall of systemic homophobia in Morocco.

Despite criminal threats and social outrage this magazine and the gay Morrocan organization Kif Kif (English version) are undaunted because they see the rightness of the 'cause' for freedom of expression and the rightness of LGBT people to declare their equal presence.


The magazine does not advocate action or try
to 'recruit' straights to be gay. No pornography, no criticism of the King, no call for a Pride festival.

The rightness of the cause comes from politics but from the objective certainty--the nature--of being homosexually attracted to a same-sex other. Unlike religion and politics that have their bases in opinion, myth, imagined stories, alleged traditional values, that is, 'invented truths' for the sake of conformity and power control, homosexuality is a universal truth of nature that is not imagined or derived from opinion. It is a verity of the natural world like speech, upright walking or sight.

With the certainty of this inherent fact, LGBT activists in many countries are now taking action to demand the world listen to this 'natural selection' phenomenon; homosexuality as a innate variant of humanness that is no more harmful or deviant than left-handedness.


It is the social crime of homophobia that creates the harm, the violence, the corruption of young minds, the blindness of clergy, the bigotry of politicians.

The 21st century is becoming a watershed century for outing the truth of sexual orientation as it slowly drills through unexamined dense traditions and unchallenged social ignorance that pervade most countries around the world.

Activists will be harmed and maimed or worse in the tortured process of coming further out in the streets and in the media. Innocent non-activist gay people (LGBT people) will continue to be bashed and killed because of gossip or truth about their 'homophillia' (attraction to the same gender).

The list of real heroes and the battalions of Pride marchers, writers, artists, parents-and-families of gays, out gay politicians, actors, musicians and countless small gay organizations in countries like Morocco, Belarus, Turkey, Malawi, Uganda, Nepal, Iceland, Honduras--are all filled with the inner light and force of their inherent sexual truths.


They deeply feel the cause of holding that light up to lead the way for the present and next generations of young and not-young LGBT citizens who know and love their own gay truth and want a better life beyond a suffocating and duplicitous closet.

Courage, bravery, endurance, resolution, spirit, spunk. Such is the food of these heroic legions, these inspired Davids against stupefied Goliaths.

This weekend we will see another battle between these enemies as Moscow gays stage a peaceful Pride event against the prohibition from the mayor of Moscow. As in the past five years the day promises to be injurious and hopefully not too bloody. Stay tuned.

Courageous Gay Magazine 'Mithly' Debuts in Morocco

Despite Islamist hostility and a restrictive legal climate, homosexuals in Morocco are publishing a magazine that covers issues in their community and beyond.

Posted by Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com

May 27, 2010

By Imane Belhaj
Magharebia News
Casablanca

[mithly.net] Magazine Mithly (Gay) published its first edition in April but has not applied for a government li


In a move that probes the limits of freedom of expression in Morocco, a group of gays and lesbians is working to raise their community's profile by publishing a trail-blazing magazine.

The gay organisation Kif Kif (We are Similar) released a limited number of copies of the first edition of Mithly (Gay) in April, without applying for a government licence that they claim would have been denied.

"We didn't submit a formal application; we knew it would be rejected," Mithly staff member Karim S., who asked that his last name be withheld to protect his privacy, told Magharebia.

"Before, all of us were banned--not to mention the magazine", said the journalist. "But we're aware that we need more struggle, persistence and time."

"Only 200 copies of the first edition were released in April to a number of interested people and advocates for freedom of intellectual, ideological and sexual choices," he added. "Currently, it's not at news kiosks, though we can offer it online pending a suitable form for print distribution."

Moroccan laws make homosexuality a crime punishable by six months to three years imprisonment and a fine, Samir Bergachi, who founded Kif Kif in 2004, told Afrik.com on May 4th. The country's lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender and intersex people, whose rights Kif Kif was set up to protect, also face widespread hostility from Islamists.

A Ministry of Communication source who asked to remain anonymous told Magharebia that the ministry had not received a license application for Mithly.

The source also said that refusing to give a distribution license to a magazine for gays and lesbians does not constitute any breach of law or suppression of the right to expression, but the law bans any publication that violates public ethics and morals.

Despite the obstacles, Kif Kif is determined to press on, Samir S. said. If the magazine does not obtain official permission to go to print, the staff will resort to online publishing.

For now, Mithly has been distributed in a quasi-secret fashion in northern cities in particular, and does not appear at kiosks in major cities such as Casablanca or Rabat.

Although it is a magazine for all gay Moroccans and Arabs, Samir S. said, Mithly will carry news, cultural items, literary works and interviews with famous figures that interest a wide audience.

Despite such plans for bridge-building, Mithly is already encountering public opposition.

The personal liberty of homosexuals is their own affair, but to publicly display their sexual orientation threatens society's values, Mustapha Khalfi, a member of the Islamist-leaning Justice and Development Party, told the local press last week.

Another Islamist, Mohammed Najid, told the press that preventing Mithly from being issued may "protect" gays and lesbians, since no one can predict society's reaction to the new publication.

A student contacted by Magharebia, Fouad Noune, said Mithly was more dangerous than a mere magazine. "It'll be a source of ideas inviting moral disintegration and licentiousness, and our society today is infested with a lot of deviance and doesn't need more," said Noune.

But another student, Bouchra Hanine, told Magharebia: "You can't talk about freedom of expression in Morocco if we're denying a group of people the right to express their suffering and problems. Why not open the door to them in order to learn about their perspectives and ideas and what pushed them toward this different orientation, so we can understand them before making pre-judgments?"

19 of 48 countries in the Asia Pacific region criminalize male-to-male sex

"Governments should "not be guided by public morality, but by constitutional morality..."

Posted by Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com

Fridae.com News
24 May 2010

by Laurindo Garcia

Nineteen of 48 countries in the Asia Pacific region criminalize male-to-male sex which contributes to over 90 percent of gay and bisexual men in the region being denied access to HIV prevention and care services.

On May 17 a panel of high-ranking judges, lawmakers, researchers and community activists gathered at the University of Hong Kong to discuss legal reform and how active participation from the community can help reverse an alarming trend where more than 90 percent of men who have sex with men (MSM) in the Asia-Pacific region do not have access to HIV prevention and care services.

This warning was highlighted during a high-level dialogue entitled “Punitive laws, human rights and HIV prevention among men who have sex with men in Asia Pacific” organized by the United Nations Development Program (UNDP) in association with the Asia-Pacific Coalition on Male Sexual Health (ACPOM) and the Center for Comparative and Public Law (CCPL) at the Faculty of Law, The University of Hong Kong.

Research conducted by UNDP and APCOM over the last 12 months investigated the affect that legislation, the judiciary and law enforcement has on responses to the HIV epidemic across the Asia-Pacific region.

While the final report is to be tabled later this year, preliminary findings were released to coincide with the International Day Against Homophobia (IDAHO).

John Godwin, a consultant to the UNDP, elaborated on data which demonstrates the precarious position of the Asia-Pacific’s HIV response. In its report, the UNDP believes the already critical situation is “likely to get worse” if countries fail to act.

Nineteen out of 48 countries across the Asia-Pacific region criminalize consensual male-to-male sex.

Male-to-male sex is illegal in Afghanistan, Bangladesh, Bhutan, Maldives, Pakistan, Sri Lanka, Brunei, Malaysia, Myanmar, Singapore, Cook Islands, Samoa, Tonga, Tuvalu, Papua New Guinea, Solomon Islands, Kiribati, Naura and Palau.

Sex between adult males was decriminalized in India's National Capital Territory but Supreme Court proceedings are still pending and the application to other jurisdictions has not been determined. Of these 19 countries, 16 are former British territories where anti-sodomy laws were introduced during colonization. Despite the ascension to independence by all 16 countries, this remnant of colonialism remains in their penal codes.

Godwin described the disconnect that exists between national AIDS policies and legal frameworks in many countries. He cited how legislation often runs counter-productive to HIV prevention strategies implemented by health officials. This legal gridlock was compounded in some cases where selective enforcement of public order and prostitution laws hamper fundamental outreach activities such as safer sex campaigns and condom distribution.

“Why do people hate homosexuals?”
In an attempt to unravel the reasons behind the disconnect between public health policy and legislation, the Honourable Michael Kirby, former High Court Judge of Australia, posed the question to the audience point-blank: “Why do people hate homosexuals?”

Kirby’s analysis of this subject revealed how the human element has often been at odds with science. Evidence-based, scientific research is the cornerstone of any public health policy. In contrast, Kirby recounted with dismay the number of instances through history where proposed legal reforms, designed to support health policy, had been put down due to talk of “Sodom and Gomorra” and other religious metaphors entering public debates.

Kirby noted, however, that there is progress on the legal front coming from recent court decisions in India, Pakistan and the Philippines on issues of sexual orientation or gender identity. However more work and leadership, by the likes of countries like Hong Kong – who repealed their anti-sodomy laws in 1991 – is required.

Landmark decision by the Delhi High Court

The Chief Justice who presided over the court in Delhi, India was on hand to describe the turn of events that led to a landmark decision in July 2009. The Honourable Ajit Prakash Shah, explained the social impact of his ruling that Section 377 of India’s Penal Code was discriminatory and “a violation of fundamental rights”. He said the case began a “national conversation” with LGBT issues now firmly “out of the closet”, a scenario he described necessary and beneficial.

While pointing out that the loudest voices against the ruling are coming from religious groups, Shah drew attention to a handful of faith-based leaders who have come to support the decision. These pro-repeal religious figures, although modest in number, refer to the constitution as being paramount and acknowledge that the goal of any religion was to develop of an inclusive society that isolates no one.

In addressing issues of “morality” – a contentious issue often at the epicentre of legal debates on LGBT rights issues – the Indian court said governments should "not be guided by public morality, but by constitutional morality", Shah recalled. He went further to explain that by repealing Section 377, the court helped resolve an impasse for the Ministry of Health whose national HIV prevention program had been obstructed by the laws of the land.

While courtroom dramas and landmark judicial rulings provide fireworks which catch worldwide media attention, the long and arduous road to legal reform via the legislative process is often less publicized, but no less significant. The governmental route requires extraordinary effort, as was characterized by a lawmaker who presented her experience over the past 10 years in Papua New Guinea.


Left to right: Moderator Thomas Abraham, Hon. Ajit Prakash Shah (India),
Hon. Michael Kirby (Australia), Hon. Dame Carol Kidu, MP and
Minister for Community Development (Papua New Guinea), and
Shivananda Khan, O.B.E, Asia Pacific Coalition on Male Sexual Health (APCOM)

Papua New Guinea’s experience
The Hon. Dame Carol Kidu is Minister for Community Development in Papua New Guinea (PNG) and is the only woman member of the 109-member PNG Parliament. Kidu made no qualms in describing her campaign to have punitive laws against homosexuals reviewed in her country as a “roller-coaster ride, with some highs and many lows”. So turbulent has the journey been that Kidu admitted that she had recently considered ending her campaign, but was now reinvigorated after inspiration from the other panelists at the UNDP event.

Kidu’s mission is to correct the “hypocrisy of a situation” where “the criminality of homosexuality has remained, in spite of the fact that the technical criminals have become major players in PNG’s HIV response strategy”. Her submission to parliament points out that without effective measures to ensure safer sex practices, there is potential for a rapid increase in HIV infection among men who have sex with men, as well as the female sexual partners of bisexual men which are common in PNG.

Continued criminalization of male-to-male sex does not stop it from occurring, Kidu explained, but instead, drives the practice further underground. These men become hidden and “difficult to engage in effective HIV prevention and care programs”.

While Kidu was confident that her submission was based on sound evidence and acknowledges the sensitivities that exist among her fellow legislators, she hit a stumbling block in mid-May with progress on the current path now uncertain. Despite the recent setback Kidu, a strident advocate on issues of reproductive rights and sexual health, made it clear that several contingency plans are open for exploration.

Transforming talk into action
However the question remains: how can any of these UNDP-sponsored talks amount to significant change for gay men, bisexuals and transgender (TG) people, as well the wider LGBT community?

Dr. Mandeep Dhaliwal, a Team Leader at the UNDP’s Bureau of Development Policy in New York, explained that these findings and the pending report will be a guide to assist advocacy efforts in its 24 in-country offices throughout the Asia-Pacific region.

More to the point, Dr Dhaliwal was adamant that the report and events like these shed light on ideas and examples that can be applied in other countries.

This was illustrated by Shivananda Khan, Interim Chairperson of APCOM and founder of South Asia’s Naz Foundation International which is active on male-to-male sexuality and HIV in the region.

Khan spoke of a range of initiatives where lawmakers and law enforcers are becoming active players in educating the public.

He spoke of plans in India where the government will embark on a campaign to de-stigmatize same-sex relationships. Khan noted several places where sensitization programs for police officers have had encouraging success at reducing violence and abuses against MSM and TG. Further examples will be released in the final UNDP report to be tabled at the International AIDS Conference in Vienna this July.

The reality is that these things do not happen overnight, as Khan explained. He spoke at length that an active and passionate civil society that demands these initiatives is vital. Khan made it clear that action at government and justice level happens in countries where civil society “comes together and works together as a team, not against each, but with each other”. He made a call to the community to engage and build bridges with all sectors, including religious leaders.

A grim, yet common, thread between all speakers was tales of violence, police abuse, suicides in the face of public humiliation and spiraling HIV infection rates.

Over time history has transformed these unfortunate events into catalysts for change in some countries. However the question left to attendees, and the community at large, is: how can significant change be won without further senseless loss of those whom we love.

Laurindo Garcia is a Manila-based correspondent and HIV Programs Manager for Fridae.com.

Moscow Gay Pride Launched--Heading into Bloody Battle

Fifth attempt to challenge Mayor's Pride ban in central Moscow this Saturday 29 May

Posted by Richard Ammon
GllobalGayz.com

Moscow
27 May 2010

The fifth attempt to hold a Moscow Pride parade was launched today in the Grand Ballroom at the Lesnaya Holiday Inn hotel in Moscow.

Nikolai Alekseev, the Moscow Pride organizer (photo right), announced at the press conference:

"The courts today rejected our appeal against the banning of three Gay Pride rallies. We asked to hold these rallies in central Moscow this Saturday 29 May. Now we go to court on Friday in a bid to overturn the Mayor's ban on holding a Gay Pride march through Moscow on Saturday," he said.

Organizers are not hopeful that the ban will be revoked.

"The Mayor's reputation and authority is at stake. He has refused us for the last five years, ever since our first attempted gay parade in 2006. I hope he will change his mind but I doubt it. Mayor Luzhkov is not a great lover of democracy, human rights or gay people. Whatever the courts decide, the right to protest is guaranteed under the Russian constitution and we intend to exercise our rights," added Mr Alekseev.

Today's Moscow Pride launch and press conference was attended by international delegates and speakers, who were there to support the Russian gay activists, including Volker Beck, the German Green MP; Louis-Georges Tin, founder of the International Day Against Homophobia and President of the IDAHO Committee; Andy Thayer, the US gays rights activist; and Peter Tatchell, coordinator of the British gay human rights group OutRage! and human rights spokesperson for the Green Party of England and Wales.

Mr Tatchell told the press conference:
"The ban on Moscow Pride is illegal and Mayor Luzhkov is a criminal for banning it. He should be put on trial for violating the Russian constitution. The real criminals are not the organizers of Moscow Pride, but the mayor of Moscow and the judges who uphold this illegal ban.

"President Medvedev and Prime Minister Putin are colluding with this ban by failing to order it to be overturned. I call on the Russian President and Prime Minister to show leadership by publicly condemning the ban and by calling on the mayor of Moscow to lift it. They should ensure freedom of expression and the right to protest to all the citizens of Moscow and Russia, gay and straight.

"We are here to defend the human rights of all Russian people. Many different rights have been violated by the authorities. It is not just gay people whose freedoms are being trampled on.

"Russia is a great nation with a proud and great history. Many important figures in Russian history have been gay or bisexual, including Sergei Eisenstein, Peter Tchaikovsky, Rudolph Nureyev, Sergei Diaghilev, Modest Musssorgsky and Nikolai Gogol. The gay contribution to Russian history deserves to be acknowledged and celebrated, with pride," said Mr Tatchell.

Further information:
Peter Tatchell in Moscow - +7 903 539 5179
Nikolai Alekseev in Moscow - +7 916 255 8240

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Malawi Lovers Jailed for Love

By Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
May 25, 2010

As if the homophobic proposals (to kill gays) in the Ugandan legislature weren't bad enough--at least they are only proposals at this time--now comes the incredible action taken by a judicial court in Malawi to imprison at hard labor two gay male lovers, Tiwonge and Steven (photo), who were bold and foolish enough to attempt a marriage to one another.

After being in a grubby jail since last December, they were finally put on trial and of course were convicted of illegal and immoral un-African behavior in early May 2010.

This speaks to the worst in human nature and shames the justice Malawian system--a system packed with ignorance about sexuality and about love between people. I find such intellectual darkness frightening because it's the same kind of blindness that has caused untold millions of deaths in Africa from tribal hatred, political warfare and religious carnage. Death is the voice of hate. In this case hate turned against a sexual minority in the form of two innocent boyfriends.

It is irrational thinking beyond anything I have personally known, although I am very aware of similar fanatical hostility toward LGBT people at various Gay Pride events, especially in Eastern Europe where skinheads attack peaceful gay marchers with verbal abuse, stones and grenades.

Homophobia is right up there with tribal rivalry as among the last 'social frontiers' of uncivilized action yet to be overcome. The cruelty that emerges from these forms of prejudice confounds all reason and progress toward a just and humane world.

How a sitting judge, supposedly versed in the objectivity of civil laws, can be so barbaric and swayed by vulgar popular opinion and emotion to render his blatantly cruel sentence of 14 years against Tiwonge and Steven; this is beyond the pale. Their offense harmed no one; it was a technical violation of a Malawi (highly homophobic) law deserving perhaps of a modest fine to assert the rule of law, unjust as it may be..

Bribery is a dishonest and dirty way to do business or politics but in this case I would gladly shuffle money under the table to secure their release. Seeing honest people rot in jail for dishonest reasons is un-African. Hatred is un-African value. This judge has violated all standards of civilized behavior in his role as 'justice' provider. Malawi deserves better. Tiwonge and Steven deserve better. They deserve freedom and each other's love.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

14 Years Jail for Malawi Gay Couple is "Brutal"

Posted by Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
May 20, 2010

14 years for Malawi couple is "brutal"--Jailed men could die in squalid prison--Only hope for Steven and Tiwonge is appeal to the High Court

By Peter Tatchell, Human Rights Activist

London -
"This is an appalling, vindictive and brutal sentence, which tramples on Malawi's constitution, violates personal privacy and reverses the country's commitment to human rights.

"Steven and Tiwonge love each other and have harmed no one. Yet they get a sentence more severe than some rapists, armed robbers and killers.

"With so much hatred and violence in Malawi, it is sick that the court has jailed these two men for loving and caring for each other.

"The sentence echoes the era of dictatorship under President Hastings Banda, when personal prejudices determined law enforcement, and when individual rights were crushed and dissenters persecuted," said London-based human rights campaigner Peter Tatchell of the gay rights group OutRage!.

He was commenting on the 14 year jail sentence for homosexuality, which was handed down today against Steven Monjeza and Tiwonge Chimbalanga in Blantyre, Malawi.

Mr Tatchell has been supporting and advocating for the jailed men since their arrest and detention in December last year; helping arrange prison visits and the delivery of food parcels, medicine, letters of support and clothes to the detained men.

"Fourteen years with hard labour could kill Steven and Tiwonge. Prison conditions are appallingly unhealthy," he said.

"Detainees die in custody. Infectious diseases like TB are rife. Medical treatment is sub-standard. Food rations are very poor nutritional value; mostly maize porridge, beans and water, causing malnutrition. After only five months behind bars, Steven has been seriously ill and has not received proper medical treatment."

Commenting on the verdict, Mr Tatchell added:

"The judge has violated Article 20 of Malawi's own constitution, which guarantees equal treatment and non-discrimination to all citizens. The law under which they were convicted is a discriminatory law that only applies to same-sex relations. It is unconstitutional. The law in Malawi is not supposed to discriminate.

"Malawi's anti-gay laws were not devised by Malawians. They were devised in London in the nineteenth century and imposed on the people of Malawi by the British colonisers and their army of occupation. Before the British came and conquered Malawi, there were no laws against homosexuality. These laws are a foreign imposition. They are not African laws.

"I expect both men will appeal against the verdict and sentence. Steven and Tiwonge's best hope is that a higher court will overturn this unjust, cruel verdict; although a more positive outcome on appeal is uncertain, given the high-level homophobia that exists in Malawian society, including among the judiciary.

"The magistrate was biased from outset. He refused the two men bail, which is very unusual in cases of non-violent offences. In Malawi, bail is normal. It is often granted to thieves and violent criminals. Denying Steven and Tiwonge bail was an act of vindictiveness.

"I appeal to governments worldwide, especially the South African government, to condemn this harsh, bigoted judgement and to urge its reversal," said Mr Tatchell.

Prior to the verdict, Tiwonge and Steven issued a defiant message from their prison cell. It affirmed their love for each other and thanked their supporters in Malawi and worldwide.

Tiwonge said: "I love Steven so much. If people or the world cannot give me the chance and freedom to continue living with him as my lover, then I am better off to die here in prison. Freedom without him is useless and meaningless."

"We have come a long way and even if our family relatives are not happy, I will not and never stop loving Tiwonge," said Steven.

The two men's messages were relayed from inside Chichiri Prison in Blantyre, Malawi, to Peter Tatchell of the LGBT human rights group OutRage! in London, England.

Tiwonge and Steven stressed their gratitude for the support they have received from fellow Malawians and from people around the world:

"We are thankful for the people who have rallied behind us during this difficult time. We are grateful to the people who visit and support us, which really makes us feel to be members of a human family; otherwise we would feel condemned," said Tiwonge.

Steven added: "All the support is well appreciated. We are grateful to everybody who is doing this for us. May people please continue the commendable job...Prison life is very difficult."

Peter Tatchell expressed his admiration of the two men:
"Steven and Tiwonge are showing immense fortitude and courage. They declared their love in a society where many people - not all - are very intolerant and homophobic. This was a very brave thing to do. Although suffering in prison, they are unbowed. They continue to maintain their love and affirm their human right to be treated with dignity and respect," said Mr Tatchell.

"They have taken a pioneering stand for the right to love. They love each other, have harmed no one and believe that love should not be a crime. It is nobody's business what they do in the privacy of their own home. There is no evidence that they have committed any crime under Malawian law. They should never have been put on trial. Even prior to their conviction, they had already spent nearly five months behind bars.

"OutRage! is supporting Steven and Tiwonge. For the last four months, we have arranged extra food to supplement the men's meagre, poor quality prison rations.

"We pay tribute to the other people and organisations who are giving legal and medical assistance to the detained men. This is a huge help. Steven and Tiwonge have asked me to communicate their appreciation," said Mr Tatchell.

Sixty-seven British MPs have signed a House of Commons Early Day Motion (EDM 564), which condemns the arrest and trial of Steven Monjeza and Tiwonge Chimbalanga.
http://edmi.parliament.uk/EDMi/EDMDetails.aspx?EDMID=40143&SESSION=903


Amnesty International has adopted Steven and Tiwonge as Prisoners of Conscience:
http://www.amnesty.org.uk/actions_details.asp?ActionID=682

Until quite recently Steven and Tiwonge did not realise that they had been adopted as Prisoners of Conscience by Amnesty International. When this news was relayed to them in prison they were, to quote one source: "Very happy with the effort made by Amnesty International to accord them this status. They offer their thanks to Amnesty."

Tiwonge and Steven have also expressed appreciation for the protest on their behalf in London on 22 March this year.

See photos of the protest here:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/outrage/sets/72157623672689772/

See videos of the protest here:
http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=Malawi+protest+london&aq=f

The two men thanked London-based African and British activists who have lobbied the Malawian Ambassador and the Commonwealth Secretary-General and Human Rights Unit to seek their release and to secure medical treatment for Steven.

Steven's condition has stabilised but he remains very ill. He is thin and weak and has jaundiced eyes, according to an eye-witness who saw him last weekend.

Tiwonge and Steven are urging continued protests to "get our release and the dropping of charges by the Malawi government."


Write a letter to Steven and Tiwonge

Help boost their spirits. Show them you care. Send a letter or postcard of support to Steven and Tiwonge. In this difficult time, they need to know that people around the world love and support them. Write to:
Tiwonge Chimbalanga and Steven Monjeza, Prisoners, Chichiri Prison, P.O.Box 30117, Blantyre 3, Malawi

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Constitution of Malawi - Article 20:

Discrimination of persons in any form is prohibited and all persons are...guaranteed equal and effective protection against discrimination on grounds of race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, nationality, ethnic or social origin, disability, property, birth or other status.

"Or other status" means on other grounds, which includes sexual orientation.

See here:
http://www.icrc.org/IHL-NAT.NSF/162d151af444ded44125673e00508141/4953f2286ef1f7c2c1257129003696f4/$FILE/Constitution%20Malawi%20-%20EN.pdf


African Charter on Human and Peoples' Rights - Articles 2, 3 and 4:

Article 2
Every individual shall be entitled to the enjoyment of the rights and freedoms recognized and guaranteed in the present Charter without distinction of any kind such as race, ethnic group, color, sex, language, religion, political or any other opinion, national and social origin, fortune, birth or other status.

Article 3
1. Every individual shall be equal before the law. 2. Every individual shall be entitled to equal protection of the law.

Article 4
Human beings are inviolable. Every human being shall be entitled to respect for his life and the integrity of his person. No one may be arbitrarily deprived of this right.

See here:
http://www1.umn.edu/humanrts/instree/z1afchar.htm

Confirmation of Malawi's signature, ratification and accession
http://www.africa-union.org/root/au/Documents/Treaties/List/African%20Charter%20on%20Human%20and%20Peoples%20Rights.pdf

Further information: Peter Tatchell (London) + 44 (0)207 403 1790

Outrageous Jail Sentencing for Gay Lovers in Malawi

Posted by Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
May 2010

From:Chivuli Ukwimi, Health and Human Rights Officer, IGLHRC
Cape Town (cukwimi@iglhrc.org)
and
Dunker Kama, Administrator, CEDEP
Blantyre, Malawi (shorinjkenpo@yahoo.co.uk)

Capetown, South Africa
The International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission (IGLHRC) and the Malawi Center for the Development of People (CEDEP) are outraged by the sentence of 14 years with hard labour imposed today by a Malawian court on Tiwonge ("Tionge") Chimbalanga (20) and Steven Monjeza (26). The Magistrate's Court in Blantyre imposed the maximum sentence following the conviction of the two on May 18 for "unnatural offences" and "indecent practices between males" under Sections 153 and 156 of the Malawi Penal Code.

"This harsh sentence compounds the impact of an already unjust conviction," said Chivuli Ukwimi, IGLHRC Health and Human Rights Officer. "Its devastating effect on Steven and Tionge is just the beginning. It will endanger lives by driving at-risk communities underground, beyond the reach of programs to address HIV and AIDS."

In his ruling, Judge Nyakwawa Usiwa-Usiwa stated, "The engagement and the living together as husband and wife of the two accused persons, who are both males, transgresses the Malawian recognized standards of propriety since it does not recognize the living of a man with another as husband and wife. Both these acts were acts of gross indecency." These views were similar to those expressed by the State Prosecutor, Barbara Mchenga, who asked the court to "consider the scar this offence will leave on our morality."

Dunker Kama, Administrator of CEDEP, responded by stating, "There is nothing immoral or indecent about love. The only thing immoral or indecent is throwing innocent people in jail for more than a decade."

The harsh sentence sends a negative message to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) Malawians who already face discrimination and persecution. It is also likely to have an adverse effect on much needed efforts to address HIV and AIDS.

"The government of Malawi has double standards," said Gift Trapence, CEDEP Director. "Its own national strategic framework on HIV/AIDS includes men who have sex with men. Now, it is imprisoning them."

This case and the criminalization of homosexuality in the Malawi Penal code amount to a violation of the human rights and protections to which Malawi is ostensibly committed through its own constitution and the regional and international human rights treaties to which it is party.

IGLHRC and CEDEP will continue to support Monjeza and Chimbalanga, including an appeal of this verdict and the repeal of all laws that unjustly discriminate against LGBT Malawians.

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Gay Pride Attacked in Belarus

Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
May 15, 2010

Saturday May 15 2010, gay Pride day in Minsk, Balarus, arrived and there were no unusual surprises: trouble was anticipated and trouble there was.

The gay participants knew the police would try to stop them. The police knew where the marchers were and intercepted them--but not before the combined rights activists from Moscow and St Petersburg joined the Belarus activists to unfurl a big rainbow flag, about 8 meters long (25 feet), and carry it along one of the main streets for a short distance. A few other participants unfurled their own smaller flags so the dozens of reporters and photographers from local and international press could take photos and have short interviews. Read more details from Logan Mucha's report.

Events happened quickly once the police came into contact with the rights celebrants. The black uniformed troops jumped out of their trucks and quickly grabbed the big flag away from the marchers and spirited it away as other black shirts began arresting people (marchers and protesters) and shoving them into the trucks.

Reports vary about the actual number of people arrested but it was generally known there were fewer than 15 marcher arrests. One report said about the same number of skinheads were arrested. See this filmed report from Naviny.by.

Diplomats were called and the usual shuffle of affairs to get the arrested activists released although the Russian embassy basically said to the Russian participants "you're on your own since you are in another country and under their laws."

Symbolic of the corrupt and inefficient governance in Belarus is that eight of those arrested and detained were told by the police that they (the police) did not have petrol in their vans and could not take them to the assigned detention center where they were supposed to remain until the court hearing! Instead they were told that they would be released with a stern warning to show up in court on Monday. (This changed later when gasoline was mysteriously found and the captives were moved to a detention center until Monday.)

No one was seriously injured although folks were bashed around and handled roughly. More details can be read at the Reuters website.

The important issue of this broken event was less to do with waving flags and giving speeches and claiming human rights for LGBT people. But more to do with raising international awareness of human rights abuses, discrimination and homophobia in Belarus; to embarrass the government into paying attention to these issues and to homosexual Belarussian citizens. The current government is generally repressive, headed by a former Soviet apparatchik who governs the country in the dictatorial Soviet manner. There is little chance for gay rights to make headway other than to make trouble and use the press to raise LGBT voices loud enough to be even slightly heard in the government.

Part of that effort to embarrass and shame the authorities was the screening of the documentary called Beyond Gay: The Politics of Pride (see the summary trailer here) which displays the stark difference between repressive countries toward gays and the liberated countries as seen through gay Pride parades, from Vancouver to Sri Lanka to Moscow, among others.

Later in the night of Saturday there was a party planned at Minsk's only gay club. Police surrounded the place to allow the party and to protect the people inside from the protesters on the outside. Eight people are still in custody until Monday but the Slavic Awards will be made tonight at the party. Then all will go home sometime to sleep and wake up to a quiet Sunday morning Minsk, as if nothing had happened.

Belarus has shamed itself. Although it can pretend to ignore a handful of queer crackpots waving flags, the symbolic meaning of Saturday will ripple across the borders to political and rights leaders who care about equality and human rights. The day will stand in Pride history and as a stain upon a morally corrupt government that will someday fall as human rights continues its slow and victorious march across homophobic and repressive Eastern Europe.

Friday, May 14, 2010

The Disease of Homophobia

Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
Mat 14, 2010

Hopefully some day coming out won’t be such a big deal and won’t be news--or do we gay (LGBT people) secretly like the rush of notoriety, the fuss, the ‘news worthy’ event, by appearing to win one more to our club, gaining over the homophobes and discovering the inside thrill of breaking into freedom.

In Iraq or Palestine coming out will get you killed. But in the West it would appear that it’s no big deal.

So why the headlines when an entertainer or movie star comes out: singer Ricky Martin and actress Cynthia Nixon (photo below left) recently announced publicly they are gay. Big deal or not?

Greg Louganis, Matthew Mitcham (photo right) are famous athletes who came out, not with a
bang but with whispers and gossip, not willing but not unwilling. Others were infamously outed in the press with some fanfare and scandal: “did you hear about Ted Haggard!?”

The Wall Street Journal considers coming out as noteworthy news: When Your Teenager Says She's Gay.

Coming out, regardless how it’s done, willing or unwilling, is a kind of rebirth from fear and hiding into truth and honesty. It’s a gay version of a bar/bat mitzvah going from child to adult; a step away from shame toward integrity. Even Haggard can be more honest—even while trying to affirm his “heterosexual side.”

Coming out is no small event; it’s a major rite of passage to declare oneself different from one’s family tradition, from hetero society, from religious conservancy. The world shifts for a person when they come out. There’s no going back to ‘normal’. The cut is made and can’t be undone. It’s an irreversible stage of growing up, from victim to victor.

But unlike other natural changes (voice change, crevice hair, height growth, sexual awareness) this one takes courage to embrace in most cases because of toxic social homophobia that muddles nearly all cultures with a historic pale of forbidding and cursing from long-ago, mostly based on vague religious origins that fundamentalists
now take as ‘gospel truth’.

Such blind belief, buried in mystery and codified into sanctimonious absolutes and legal codes--without close examination of the validity of the sources--is another wonder of human nature: to believe that myth is truth, that fiction is fact, that sexual varieties don’t exist, that women are less; that Jesus, Muhammad and Buddha had direct links to the Divine. All are myths solidified by habitual unquestioned retelling and surrounded by officious systems.

Human sexuality is probably one of humanity’s most mysterious and fearful forces because it exposes in overt behavior the deepest covert feelings and hidden urges of an individual. Sex reveals secrets. Observe the numerous fundamentalist male preachers who are caught with their pants down with an escort. Observe the Catholic priests imposing sexual pleasure on under-age parishioners. (photo left Cynthia Nixon with fiancee Christine Marinoni)

And it’s not just the church folks who protest too much. Homosexuality is being portrayed as a disease by notable people featured in this week’s tabloids. Anti-gay Christian activist George Rekers
who has been ‘involved’ with a younger man is vehemently denying such charges: “I will fight these false reports
because I have not engaged in any homosexual behavior whatsoever. I am not gay and never have been...” (He should bite more than dust for his hypocrisy and also should be pitied for the soulful anguish his internal homophobia is causing him to suffer.)

Followed today by Elizabeth Taylor’s verbal offense against Michael Jackson’s former doctor who outed Jackson.

Such use of sexual orientation as a weapon of hostility and derogatory slander are pathetic in their shallowness and ignorance. It’s like trying to degrade a person for having freckles. Ridiculous.

Sexual desire trumps just about everything—wealth, religion, race, fame, power. Where are these predators coming from in their deep souls to fabricate such facades or auras of lies about their essential craven truth? Hiding sexual desire behind the mask of religious garb is a most shameful form of toxic internal homophobia. (Hate who you are but don’t hate others by victimizing them.)

Coming out would ‘cure’ the abuse and hypocrisy of closeted clerical cravings. Something like ‘the truth will set you free’. What do we lose by coming out? We lose a lie, a false identity, an ill-fitting mask of conformity.

In these modern times, we are seeing that the great trauma is less about revealing who we really are and more about the disease of social homophobia. We are highly social creatures and sometimes that’s not a good thing; society can kill gays, spiritually and physically. (See also how homophobic-tinged ("Hey, Speedo-boy...!") bullying drove UK Olympic diver Tom Daley to quit his school.) (photo right)

Another aphorism underlies the integrity of coming out: to thine own self be true...and it follows thou canst not be false to any man. No need to lie; how good does that feel!

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Religious Fairy Tales vs Gay Marriage

Richard Ammon
GlobalGayz.com
May 13, 2010

Today’s news brought a hysterically horrid report about the Pope in Portugal. He called for pastoral action to tackle abortion and same-sex marriage, which he called "some of today's most insidious and dangerous threats to the common good".

(Insidious means: harmful but enticing; seductive; having a gradual and cumulative effect; spreading harmfully in a subtle or stealthy manner.)

These vile words came as he spoke at the famous Fatima shrine, Basilica of Our Lady of the Rosary, one of the most revered sites in Catholicism.

The basilica (photo right) was built to commemorate alleged events of 1917 when three shepherd peasant children claimed to have had a vision of the "Virgin of the Rosary", (Our Lady of Fátima). The little children experienced the purported ‘Marian apparitions’ in a nearby sheep pasture. Strangely, people believed them and today millions of Catholics flock to the site in search of miracle cures and to worship there.

I find it incredulous that a modern Christian mind whose job it is to have compassion in the world for real human conditions could have such devout faith in unproven non-human fairy tales told by naive shepherd boys--and at the same time discredit real-life authentic love between two adults.

What’s terribly wrong with this picture!?

The Pope has no clue what gay marriage is and doesn’t want to know. He refuses to accept that it’s about love. That it’s a ceremony of devotion and commitment between two same-sex adults in the non-airy-fairy working world finding realistic ways to enhance each other’s daily lives.

The challenge is whether to attend to imaginary mythology or real life love? The choice seems so obvious as to not be a choice. Yet this supposed religious leader who wishes the world to be a better place, chooses to favor magical mysteries over real hands-on goodness in action.

The world will not be a better place until such influential leaders dressed in spotless while linen clothing and gold rings gives up his lofty spiritual myths, throws off his sterile robes and lives among the poor laying bricks and seeing the validity in all forms of human love.

He would rather protect sexual criminals in order to maintain hypocritical clerical ‘purity’ (talk about insidious!) than to recruit openly loving gay and lesbian adults into the church and bless them with marriage.

Monday, May 10, 2010

Farewell to a Friend Dying Too Young

Richard Ammon
The Pines, Fire Island
Long Island, New York
May 8, 2010

This is where the gay boys are housed in their trendy unpainted wood and glass mansionettes surrounded by scrub oaks, wooden sidewalks, sandy beaches and testosterone. It takes a ferry to get here and much money to stay; it's definitely a place for upscale gay males and their less affluent friends, including weekend toy boys. In the small harbor float half a dozen luxury yachts belonging to the really rich.

But I was not there for the scene and neither were the other 15 guys and one woman who gathered one weekend in May at Steven's house on Neptune boardwalk. It was a party of sorts, except the guest of honor was not there. Conrad died a few months ago in Bali. Only his ashes remained, transported here by his 'widowed' partner, Michael, in a carved wooden box (from Indonesia, of course).

Conrad and Michael were a gay couple living in Bangkok (photo left)--busy, compatible, productive and sociable. They loved long-distance living. Suddenly Conrad’s heart stopped. He was 62.

I knew Conrad since he was 18 and I was 26 at Tufts University but we had lost contact for years--resolved with a happy reunion last year in Bangkok, with Michael.

Reaching that far back into personal history is only possible with a rare friend who remembers shared vague moments, fragmented images or fumbling and forgotten passions. It’s a special reach back into the misty swamp of memory that only historical friendship can evoke.

I like the crashing feeling of being yanked backward 40 years to forgotten-yet-not places, people and action normally crusted over with time and re-awakened suddenly with a youth-charged old friend who speaks names and feelings and carnal moments of long ago. Conrad and I did that on our last visit.

Now those particular memory streams that he could re-awaken are silenced. I don’t mind the loss of those memories but I do mind losing him.

Surviving partner Michael (photo right) arranged everything perfectly for the memorial weekend--rooms at neighbors' houses, communal dinners at Steven's and the boat to take us out to sea to spread the ashes, followed by strewn flowers from the friends on deck. The weather was quite fine: some scattered clouds, sunshine, calm winds, warm early May. (A storm followed a while later.)

Michael held open the silken bag and the ashes fell to the sea. It seemed such a simple end to a life that was complex, adventurous, unique--now dust. As I age, illness and death encroach on one friend after another, one family member at a time. I don’t much like it. I’d like my favorite and long-distance friends, lovers, parents and chosen family to answer the phone when I call.

But the way of the world is not my will; there’s only the fading echo of their voices and the ashes in the wake.

Sic transit gloria mundi. (everything changes)